Baby bump, baby moon

 Last month, Sam and I took a trip (post-vaccinations! Wahoo!) to the Southwest for a little "babymoon" (which is apparently a Millennial thing to do). 

[#pregnart. This was . . . around 30 weeks? If I remember correctly?] 

[hanging out in beautiful sedona]

We spent time in Arizona (Sedona and the Grand Canyon) and in New Mexico (mostly in Santa Fe). Neither one of us had been to the Grand Canyon before, and we were both glad we drove the distance to see it. (I can now understand why my parents--after traveling with 5 kids in Southern Utah to visit Zion's National Park--ultimately decided not to drive further south to see the Grand Canyon. It is out of the way, and I can understand my parents not wanting to add another half-day to our vacations.) 

The Grand Canyon truly was awe-inspiring (Sam even teared up a little bit when we got to the first viewpoint), and we enjoyed driving to different look-out points (I was not going to be hiking the Grand Canyon or riding a mule at 7 months' pregnant--there might be some women who do hike the Grand Canyon, and more power to them, but I was good with just walking and looking around). The scale is hard to describe; Iphone pictures don't do it justice. (And I'm sure the perspective is just as amazing from inside the canyon.) 

[my eyes might be closed in this picture? and for some reason, that makes it even better.]

[someday we will tell our son, "oh, you've been to the grand canyon." and he'll say, "but i can't remember it!"--or something along those lines--but we will insist, because it's true, but also to annoy him.]

Other highlights of the trip included seeing red rocks (I just really love them), the Chapel of the Holy Cross, Santa Fe, good food, and staying in a proto-earth ship. I

[inside the chapel of the holy cross]

[and the chapel of the holy cross from the outside]

[santa fe welcomes you]

[also, chimayo, new mexico was lovely.]

A (belated) Easter thought

 (but still always applicable) 

"Look, I know all too well that the story of the world is entropy, things fly apart, we sicken, we fail, we grow weary, we divorce, we are hammered and hounded by loss and accidents and tragedies, we slide away into the dark oceans behind the stars. 

But I also know that we are carved of immense confusing holiness; that the whole point for us is grace under duress; and that you either take a flying leap at nonsensical illogical unreasonable ideas like marriage and marathons and democracy and divinity, or you huddle behind the brooding wall." --Brian Doyle, "A Song of Believing" 

D.C. in spring is the prettiest time of the year.

 I've had a bunch of photos of D.C. spring that I've been meaning to post on here, but my computer is laaammmme and has been having storage issues, which can make the very act of downloading a chore. BUT! without further ado, here are some pictures of D.C., all pretty in pink. 

(Because I will stand by what I said--spring is the best time of year for D.C.) 

First up, neighborhood walks, because that's what Sam and I like to do after long days at work. 

[so many pretty front gardens in the capitol hill area. i like how the flowers just cascade from these plots.]

[artistic tree outside cvs.]

[these beehives are in front of our ward building and i kind of love them.]

[another call box, this time near dupont.]

[we found this tree filled with oragami cranes and i really, really, really loved it.]

[daffodils in our backyard!]

[and crocuses in the cemetery.]

[this sculpture by saint-gauden is officially titled the mystery of the hereafter and the peace of God that passeth understanding, but it's also called the adams memorial or "grief". it was made as a monument to marian "clover" hooper adams [hnery adams's wife] after she took her own life. such a sad story.]

And now for the pink. Starting with pink magnolias outside of the Smithsonian castle. 

[i don't know why people use "pansy" in a derogatory way. i mean, yes, they are delicate. but man, they are resilient.]  

[and now, what you've all been waiting for, pink cherry blossoms by the tidal basin.]

And now, back to "how things are going for us," I am still pregnant and am outgrowing all of my clothes. 

[at 27 weeks with one of the handful of dresses that still fit. this will probably not fit in a couple of weeks. i haven't had much luck finding maternity clothes because you can't try on maternity clothes at target or other retail stores, and ordering things online is hit-or-miss.]

[trying to get a full-body shot by standing on our orange couch.]

[also, sam and i finished the 1000-piece puzzle we were working on! it got hard at the end, because there were just tree and snow pieces left. BUT WE DID IT.]

a new spring

It's been a little over a year since the pandemic hit the U.S., since cities shut down, since Princeton shut down, since the archives shut down, since we realized that life was going to be very different for a while--for how long a while, none of us knew for sure. 

I remember how strange it was to see the beginnings of spring--of daffodils, green buds, of cherry blossoms--juxtaposed with everything closing up; with death and sickness and fear. 

A year later, with spring in the air again, things feel different. A few nights ago, Sam and I ate outdoors at a restaurant, felt the warming spring air around us, and saw how others around us--seated outside at the restaurant, passerby on the street--seemed so much more relaxed than a year ago, than a month ago. There are changes coming, and I hope that there are good things ahead for all of us. 

"there's a hope in every new seed

and every flower that grows upon the earth [. . .]

I'll come back to you in a year or so

and rebuild, ready to become 

the person you believed in, 

the person that you used to love." --noah and the whale, "the first day of spring" 

Mid-Atlantic Snapshots

On our walks, I've been taking pictures of these call boxes which dot D.C. Some of them have been designed to show historical scenes of the local neighborhoods. 

Others portray historic figures. 

And yet others are truly labors of love. Like this one outside of Tyler Elementary School, with the "Tyler Tiger" (who looks like a burglar), admonishing us to "Do work." 

I got new glasses frames. I also got a new phone and am trying to figure out both my new frames and Portrait mode in this picture.

WFH view some days. 

Princeton covered in snow (I went up there for a day to drop off/pick up books). It was a bit eerie being there. 

This was the day I got back from Princeton in D.C. Amazing what a distance of 170 miles south can do to weather patterns.

Sam and I went out to eat in a restaurant for the first time in . . . I don't know how long. The ramen here was pleasing to my palate. This lantern design was aesthetically pleasing.

Stained glass windows are also aesthetically pleasing.

Okay, so this does not technically fall into "Mid-Atlantic." This is a picture of Luray Caverns, which are in Virginia. But we went there last week and they were really cool! It really gives you a different sense of time--in this case, deep, deep time. 

This one (below) was my favorite part on the tour. They are stalactites which are reflected in 8-10 inches of water, and the "stalagmites" on the bottom are actually just reflections. But they look like a miniature model city or canyon!  

The famous Luray Organ. It was playing "A Mighty Fortress is Our God" when we walked past. 

And then, back properly to the mid-Atlantic in D.C., in our apartment, stitching away, since that's apparently what I do while nesting. 

The (almost) finished product! (I'll put Baby's name/birthdate/weight and height underneath the flower, once he has and name/birthdate/birth weight and height. All of those are still TBD.) 

Two P.E. Stories

I'm trying a digital minimalism challenge for the month of March, which, for me, basically means I'm staying off of Facebook and Instagram. My personal rules do not rule out my blog. 

But I am amazed at how bored I get during the day, and how my mind wanders to things I haven't thought about in literally years. The caverns of human memory are deep. 

On a walk a few nights ago, the floodgates of remembering junior high and high school P.E. classes opened for some unknown reason, and I found myself thinking of a few different P.E. classes, and then telling Sam about them, because, what else better to do on a semi-spring day in our nation's capital? 

One of these memories which came to the forefront was from tenth grade. The details and faces are hazy, but I remember there were two cousins in my P.E. class (which, if it was tenth grade, would have been my aerobics class, which is another story for a different day, because wow, I don't think I've worked harder in my life than in that class). I think one of the cousins was in Band with me, which means I knew her slightly better. She was also kinder to me. The non-band cousin I didn't know at all, but she was on the Yearbook staff. She was not as kind.  

Anyway, one day when we were all in the locker room changing into our high-school approved P.E. gear, the Yearbook Cousin was talking about how one of the pages she was working on was about trips/adventures students had undertaken that summer. I can't remember if someone had asked her what she was working on for that class, or if she was mainly talking to her cousin about it, but I recall that it was more of an open, "this is what I'm working on," conversation, and it seemed to me that she was wanting more stories and photos. 

I had gone on a really cool trip that summer with my family. We had gone to Europe--to Germany, Denmark, and Sweden--and I had had a great time. I mentioned this to the Yearbook Cousin, and said that I could get some pictures if she was interested. She didn't seem very interested, and said something non-committal. 

She probably thought I would forget, but I did not. I got some pictures from home, made copies of them, and at some point in the next week or two, again, in the locker room, I handed them to Yearbook Cousin, saying that the trip I went on was really interesting, and that she could use my story if she wanted to. I do not remember her seeming particularly pleased, but she put the pictures in her locker and then off we all went to get pummeled by burpees. 

But what I do remember is that after that class, as I got changed, the cousins left before me, and when I turned around to leave the locker room and head off to whatever class I had next, I saw the pictures I had handed Yearbook Cousin on the locker room bench, very much unwanted. 

And that made me sad. 

I didn't want to cry, because I only had seven minutes to get to my next class, and it would take longer than seven minutes for a red, puffy, tear-streaked face to return to normal, so somehow I gathered up my courage as I gathered up the photographs, put them in my backpack, used a minute of my time to drink deeply from the water fountain to keep back my tears, and then went on with my day. 

Telling this story to Sam, I can laugh about it now--both at the sheer absurdity that belongs to high school P.E. classes, and at Yearbook Cousin's passive aggressiveness (there are so many better ways to handle a situation like that . . . just take the pictures and if you don't want them throw them away at home. Don't just put them on the locker room bench like a cutting room, especially in front of the girl who just gave them to you. Anyway. Just. Really, really weird. I don't even remember her name. I also don't remember the name of Band Cousin. But I do remember this experience.) 

That memory awakened another deep P.E. memory, this time from 8th or 9th grade in junior high. Again, names and details are very fuzzy. But I remember that there was a girl who was a grade younger than me that decided for some reason that I was her enemy for a couple of weeks, and she was just really snarky towards me. I will call her Ponytail Girl, because I remember she wore a high ponytail. But it wasn't for very long, and I think I remember being more exasperated than anything--I usually just became very "ice queen"-esque when people were being unkind to me (I wouldn't respond, I would ignore them, etc.), so I'm pretty sure that was the extent of the unpleasantness, and I don't think it lasted more than a week or so.  

And, I probably wouldn't have even remembered that, except that three or four years later, that same girl came up to me at EFY in a classroom in the Wilkinson Center at BYU and re-introduced herself and said that she was happy to see me. I didn't really remember who she was, so I was more confused than anything, but I don't think she was happy with my response, and later I heard her friend saying something like, "All that matters is that you tried to repent. It's her fault if she won't forgive," or something like that. I then spent the rest of that session trying to find her again trying to be more friendly, but, alas, she'll always remember me as the "girl who wouldn't forgive," who, in reality, was just confused. 

You just don't know what's been eating away at people, nor can you read minds. 

There is no rhyme or reason to these stories, really. Just random P.E. stories which have been on my mind. 

Again, the caverns of human memory are deep and uncanny. 

international women's day, eight years later.

Tonight I am thinking of my Women's Day spent in Eastern Ukraine.  

I'm thinking of yellow, puffy mimosa flowers handed out to women in the streets

of friendly greetings in the cold, March air 

of thoughtful friends giving us purple hyacinths 

of a possible spring 

of women's shoulders

(hunched down, straight, tall, burdened) 

of sisterhood and solidarity 

of the sense that I was part of something larger, 

something bigger, 

connecting me to women I would have never met or seen; 

women whose stories are so much larger

than I can ever truly know.